10 Questions Happy Couples Are Constantly Asking One Another

Happy couples aren’t happy by accident. They’re happy because they put in the effort and time to make sure that their relationship is good and their partner is happy. Whether you’re already in a happy relationship or you want to improve your relationship, consider starting to ask these 10 questions happy couples are constantly asking each other.

What do I do that annoys you?

This question is a big one because people often hesitate to speak up about annoyances for fear of a fight. By opening the door and letting your partner know that you want to hear about what you might do that annoys them, you open up the lines of communication. You let them know it’s okay to tell you. And you then give yourself an opportunity to make changes and stop the behaviors that annoy them.

When and why do you most feel loved by me?

Everyone wants to feel loved and most people would agree that they want to make their partner feel loved. But sometimes you don’t actually know what you do that makes your partner really feel loved, so you just do whatever you think might show love or what makes you feel loved – and that might not be what makes your partner feel loved. By asking this, you give them a chance to give you specific examples of how you can show them your love and why those things work so you can come up with other things that will have the same effect.

What are you three biggest needs and how can I meet them?

Meeting a partner’s needs is an important part of any relationship. People aren’t mind readers, though, so it’s important for both partners to ask what their partner needs and how they might be able to help meet those needs. But this is a question that should be asked often because needs can change from week to week or even day to day.

How can we improve our sex life?

Even if you both agree that your sex life is outstanding, there is always something you can do to spice it up, shake things up, or make it better. This is a question to ask often so that both partners feel comfortable expressing new desires and interests. Are there any places you can go for advice? Something like these sex tips for women can be extremely helpful in the bedroom. Then you can decide together how and when to explore those new desires and interests so your sex life can stay as incredible as it already is.

What is the best part of our relationship?

Ask this question frequently, as the answer will change as you have more experiences together. It’s interesting to hear the things your partner thinks is best about your relationship. It offers insight into the things they find most valuable about your relationship and how you might be able to be an even better partner to them.

What would you think is unforgivable and why?

Most people have deal breakers in a relationship and most agree that they would never deliberately do something that would hurt their partner. But you don’t always discuss those deal breakers and even when you do, the reasons why often aren’t part of the discussion. But it’s important to know what your partner might find unforgivable. Obviously, you want to know so you can avoid it. But you also want to know why they find it unforgivable because this can show you where they might have sensitivities, insecurities, or doubts that you might need to tread lightly around.

What are the best and worst things about your childhood?

Everyone has a childhood filled with both good and bad memories. Most of those memories are just average, not having had any real impact on your life as an adult. But the best and worst of those memories can, and likely do, impact your life as an adult. These answers can help you understand your partner better. Plus, sometimes it’s just fun to hear these things.

What dreams haven’t you achieved yet and what’s stopping you?

Dreams are what keeps the heart beating. From traveling the world to career aspirations to winning the lotto, dreams keep people moving forward. Asking your partner what their dreams are lets them know you care about their dreams and what they want. It gives you information so you can support them in pursuit of those dreams. Asking what’s stopping them from achieving those dreams gets both of you thinking about how they can make those dreams come true.

Is there anything bothering you that I should know about?

How many times has something been on your mind and you didn’t tell your partner because you didn’t want to worry or stress them? Part of being a couple, though, is sharing your worries and doubts with each other. By asking this question, you let your partner know that you want to shoulder the worries with them. You let them know it’s okay to share things with you even when they’re not pleasant and that you’re here for them no matter what.

Of all the couples we know, who do you think has the best relationship?

People generally know what they want in a relationship. But knowing what you want and being able to put it into words aren’t always the same thing. When you ask this question, your partner’s answer can help you see what they might want. Most of the time, what they describe as the “best” relationship is the one most like what they want. This allows you to assess where you and your partner might be able to learn a thing or two from the other couple to improve your relationship.

There are plenty of other questions that you should be asking your partner. Some are common to all relationships while others would be specific to your relationship. But these questions are a great start to bringing you and your partner closer to each other and making for a happier, healthier relationship you both love.